Mister Manners, Thomas P. Farley, is America’s trusted etiquette expert.

A keynote speaker, workshop leader, syndicated columnist and TV commentator, he inspires audiences of all types to master essential communication strategies for success in the workplace—and in life.

His business-etiquette, customer-service and communication programs—both in-person and virtual—are engaging and memorable, offering strategies for getting along and getting ahead in the modern era.

Among his clients have included the United States Department of Commerce, the Estée Lauder Companies, JPMorgan Chase, the Walt Disney Corporation, Bank of America, the American Automobile Association (AAA), the U.S. Army, Viacom, Toyota and UPS.

Thomas is a regular and popular guest on the NBC Today show, where he fields questions on modern-day manners issues—subjects from “etiquette for virtual weddings” to “what not to wear at a company beach outing.” In 2017, he debuted “Manners on the Move,” a special multi-part Today show series that examined incivility in America.

His syndicated weekly column, “Ask Mister Manners,” appears in Tribune publications throughout the United States, including the Chicago Tribune, the Baltimore Sun, the New York Daily News and beyond. His insights appear regularly in other media as well, including the Rachael Ray show, Inside Edition, Dr. Oz, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, Wired and Money magazines, USA Today, CNN, VH1, ABC and on radio stations across the country.

Throughout 2011, he served as an ongoing host for the daily call-in program Living Today, on the Martha Stewart Living Radio network. He has been a guest lecturer at New York University’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies, and edited the anthology “Modern Manners: The Thinking Person’s Guide to Social Graces.”

A graduate of New York’s Fordham University, Mr. Farley says these are challenging times for good etiquette: “As the United States emerges from this long and difficult pandemic, we are all navigating  new realities. For anyone striving to re-build connections while also establishing meaningful new ones, it is vital that they consider the ways they can uplift every interaction through graciousness and consideration.”

To see Thomas in action, he invites you to watch his reel.




“Thomas’s session this summer was fantastic, similar to our past experience working together. He is a pleasure to work with, a very relatable presenter who is engaging and prepared. We would love to work with him again as we facilitate future training classes.”

— Insurance Industry Executive

“I found [the program] to be very insightful. I honestly walked away a different person, for the better.”

— Financial Services Team Member

“He has a great way of explaining manners that don’t make you feel silly for not knowing them. He just gets to the core about what modern-day politeness and manners are all about – thoughtfulness and consideration for the other person.”

— Travel Industry Professional

“I can’t ever recall any participant requesting that a class be ‘longer.’ GREAT JOB, Thomas!”

— Automotive Company Training Coordinator

“The course was interactive, with a combination of both small- and large-group discussion, and incorporated many tips and techniques into the training.”

— Education Official


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From a bespoke suit hand-sewn on Savile Row to the dare-to-be-rare BMW Z8, the following is a a list of items and characters Thomas finds inspirational.

Bespoke Men’s Tailor

Henry Poole, London

Vintage Accessory

New York World’s Fair cufflinks, 1964


Underwood No. 6 Typewriter

Classic Movie

To Catch a Thief (1955)

Out-of-Production Sports Car

2001 BMW Z8

Classic Film Hero

George Bailey (It’s a Wonderful Life, 1946)


Parmigiani Tonda Metrographe Automatic 40mm

Etiquette Book

Kiss, Bow, Or Shake Hands: The Bestselling Guide to Doing Business in More Than 60 Countries (Terri Morrison & Wayne A. Conaway, 2006)

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